Website Update

I have decided to remove any blogs listed on the left hand side of this site if it has not been updated in the last 6 months. If you feel your blog should be listed, feel free to e-mail me and I will post it. This should help keep outdated resources off this site. In addition I've been pretty busy outside of the world of seduction so I have not really had time to focus on updates on this site. That should change a bit soon and there will be more regular updates.

New York City PUA Events for April 2009

In an effort to keep my readers and myself better informed on the different community events occurring in New York City each month I post a calendar at the beginning of each month listing all upcoming events I am aware of. New York City is a place that has several different community groups and there is no reason to learn pick up on your own if you do not want to. If I have a missed an event that you feel should be listed please do not hesitate to e-mail me.

Sunday, April 5
Title: Natural Game Seminar
Host: The Edge
Location: Pearl Studios NYC, 500 8th Ave, New York, NY 10018, Room 402
Time: 7:00 p.m.
Cost: $10
Description: “This weekend I will be hosting a brand NEW Natural Game Seminar featuring NEW CONTENT so come expecting many new ideas. I am looking forward to reconnecting with most of you again after my long absence. As the weather is getting warmer and girls are looking hotter, it is the perfect time to brush up on some more Natural Game before summer comes. This is my first seminar for a long while so I am really excited about it. This time as usual it will be full immersion and making deep level changes to the way you currently see game. The Seminar will be almost free ($10 to cover the room) and 2 hours long. We are going further down the rabbit hole... Please email theedgemichael@gmail.com to confirm attendance”

Thursday, April 9
Title: Mystery’s Roundtable Presentation
Host: Vibe Society
Location: Source of Life Center, 325 7th Avenue, 16th FL, Room D1
Time: 7:00 p.m. – 10:00 p.m.
Price: Free for Inner Circle & Secret Society Members; $40 Non-Members
Description: “Rather than covering a specific format, Mystery will be covering his over-arching recent theories and deeper principals of the beginnings in an interaction. Some of these can be found in his recent book Revelations, covering micro-calibartion, vibing and mindset and others will be found in his soon-to-be released Ebook that he is currently writing.”

Saturday, April 18
Title: Spring is Here, Kick Start Meeting
Host: NYC Wingmen
Time: 7:00 p.m.
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, Room 16Q, 520 Eighth Avenue, 16th Floor, New York, NY 10018
Description: “Round Table meeting. This is throw back to very beginning of wingmen groups in NY, which would be about 6 years now. Our group has not had session like this before, so this should be very interesting and educational. This time Around we will have round table meeting, which is in essence wingmen knowledge share, you can ask questions on any topic and more advanced guys will answer. Advanced guys might have their own questions and there will some people able to answer advanced questions. I will be moderator, so won’t be doing much speaking. Our main topic of discussion will be: LTR or FB, how to select and draw boundaries? What makes an approach great? What is confidence and how can you exude it?”

The Mentality of Most AFCs

A lot of AFCs think that if they do things for girls those girls will like them in return. This is why so many guys go out of their way for girls, whether those girls ask them to or not, even though there is little chance of anything developing from it. A scene from the movie called "Sex and Death 101" starring Simon Baker and Winona Ryder illustrates this point wonderfully so I thought I would share:

The Don on WGN News Segment

The Don from Love Systems was on a WGN News Segment explaining dating tips and advice. Below is a video of that news segment:

Swinging: First Time Visiting an On-Premise Club

Last weekend my Primary Long Term Relationship (PLTR) and I went to an On-Premise Swingers Club.

An On-Premise club is a club which sexual activity is allowed. Generally they have a separate section where partygoers can get nude and have sexual intercourse with one another. There are private rooms that have curtains, public rooms where everyone can clearly see what activities are going on, etc. This particular club even had a sex swing set up. Some clubs only cater to Couples only, others also allow Single Women, and still more also allow Single Men (though with different restrictions on days or screening methods).

In New York most On-Premise Clubs (including this one) do not serve alcohol, but they do have a juice bar (they serve soda, juice, pretzels, chips, etc.).

A lot of the more exclusive clubs screen not only the men, but also the couples. Some screening mechanisms are to see photos of the individuals before and others require having a current couple of the club vouch for the applicant.

The club we went to was NOT one of these very upscale clubs/parties that require a $150 to attend for couples and even more so for single guys and implement strict screening procedures.

We went on a night where it was free for couples (this was the main reason we checked the place out) and single men would be allowed in following 11:30 p.m. We thought it was a good chance to check the place out and not have to pay for the experience.

According to the nights total there were 16 couples and a whole lot of single men. I felt the place didn’t exactly do a good job of screening the men coming in. The club had said that upscale dress was required, but some of those they let in were far from it. These men paid $40 to enter the club.

The first odd thing we noticed was the creep factor of these guys. We walked into the play area (the area where people have sex) and immediately every guy in the place basically followed us in there. They were hovering. No one tried to speak with us, they just hovered. So we left the play area. Now I know how girls feel when a guy hovers and does nothing. 3 Second Rule guys.

So we hung out at the juice bar for awhile and every now and then we would go into the play area to see what was happening.

None of the couples interested us. Even the ones with attractive female halves did not also have an equally attractive male half.

By the end of the night three men opened us. Two were friendly, but we weren’t interested. They third one was creepy and tried using a weather opener to open us.
People did have sex however. One woman dragged her husband along with two other guys into one of the rooms and had a foursome. All those creepy single guys would run over to the room and even though the curtain was closed still peer in to watch the action. It was really a turn off.

The oddest behavior was the male masturbation. There were guys that would just sit down not too far away from us and stare at my PLTR and jerk off. They pulled out their little friends and start pumping away. Believe it or not, some people were creepier when they did this than others. One guy kept getting closer and the look on his face had such intensity to it that we had to just get up and leave.

So in the end, we didn’t play with anyone. None of the couples interested us (one did proposition us, but we passed) and definitely none of the guys interested us in the least.

What is really interesting is that if some of these guys dressed well and learned some social skills and didn't follow women around, they would probably see a lot more action at these types of clubs instead of throwing down anywhere between 40-100 dollars to just be creepy.

Lay Report: Audrey

Rating

5.5 – Cute (View My Detailed Rating Scale)

Details

I am going to call the girl Audrey.

I met this girl at a party at a friend’s house several weeks ago. She was the new housemate of my friend.

I had gone to the party with my Primary Long Term Relationship (PLTR) and at some point in the night I was left alone with this girl for a significant amount of time. Because I host parties regularly I had taken down her number earlier in the night, but at this point we both had quite a bit to drink and I was making a lot of sexual innuendos. For instance, at one point I accidently knocked a shot onto her lap and said to her, “oh no, I just made you wet, what are we going to do now?” You get the drift. I built absolutely no rapport. I only knew her name and basically nothing else (One thing of note is that she just recently broke up with her long term boyfriend on Valentine’s Day). We were just having a good time and I was just basically running social circle game the entire night. By that I mean that I established myself as a fun social guy throughout the night. I didn’t run routines or show sexual interest in anyone until Audrey and I were left alone and mostly I did that only because I was a bit bored and wanted to see what I could get away with.

At one point after people returned to the room Audrey and I were in, Audrey went to the bathroom. I was waiting outside the bathroom to use the restroom after her and when she opened the door to leave the bathroom she fell backwards against the wall in the bathroom. I went in there to help her up and she began to make out with me. She only stopped when someone in another room called her name.

Later on in the night Audrey was in the kitchen where coffee was brewing. The night was coming to a close and I needed a pick me up before heading out so I went to check on the coffee. We were the only ones in the kitchen and chatted briefly and then she began to kiss me and we started making out. However, she didn’t want to stop. My PLTR walked into the kitchen and finally Audrey stopped. My PLTR handled the situation completely fine and didn’t make any indication to anyone that what had happened fazed her in the least.

The following day Audrey sent me a text message. She wanted to know if my PLTR and I were okay after what happened the previous night. I informed her that my PLTR is completely fine and that we have an open relationship. Audrey then went on to tell me she wanted to hook up with me again then. I told her to have absolutely no expectations with me and she agreed she wouldn’t.

The friend that hosted that original party decided that she would have another get together the next Saturday to finish off all the Jell-O shots she made for the previous week that we never got to. At that party Audrey was consistently trying to get me alone with her to make out with her, and kept rubbing my leg and trying to put her leg on mine. She got really intoxicated and was slamming her phone and knocking over drinks. It was very unappealing and at that point I was pretty much turned off by her because of her behavior.

The following weekend Audrey wanted to hang out with me but I had other plans. She then txt messaged me asking if I wanted to hang out the following weekend, which would mark a month since I met her. I told her I would have to check my calendar and decided that I would hang out with her and if she acted in any way that turned me off I could always just end the night early.

This past Saturday Audrey and I went out to a bar and had some drinks. We had a good time, flirted, and built some rapport, and then made out. Now in all honesty I am very confident that I could have skipped the bar and went straight to the bedroom, but I wasn’t sure if I was interested. However, I was interested by the time we were leaving the bar. We went back to her place, I asked the requisite questions (e.g., when was the last time you were tested for STDs and what were the results), and then I went down on her.

The issue arose when I realized I had drunk way too much and I was having difficulty getting hard. This has happened several times in the past, but it is a psychological thing more than a physical. If I’m sleeping with a girl for awhile, it does not matter how drunk I get, I can get hard very easily; it is only with new girls that my equipment decides to malfunction when I drink. But this girl was not having any of that. She wanted to have sex and she wasn’t going to take any excuses.

She went down on me and played with me until I got hard. I slapped on a rubber and went to work. Overall it was a fun, playful experience that I would repeat.

The only issue is that because she is the housemate of my friend, some of my friends now know about my open relationship with my PLTR and I just like to keep most of my private life to myself. I think the fact that I actually have an open relationship and I slept with her housemate has made her feel uncomfortable, which I somewhat cannot blame her for since when I was going down on Audrey she was moaning loud enough to wake the dead, and she definitely woke my friend up.

Conclusions and What I learned

Girls are looking to hook up with guys for any number of reasons, but when a girl is really interested it is almost a done deal baring the guy not being interested or really turning the girl off. In this case, Audrey had recently ended a long term relationship and I was probably the first attractive and fun guy to give her attention after the breakup so it was fairly easy. She was looking to hook up, if it wasn’t me it would have been someone else.

New York City PUA Events for February 2009 (Updated)

In an effort to keep my readers and myself better informed on the different community events occurring in New York City each month I post a calendar at the beginning of each month listing all upcoming events I am aware of. New York City is a place that has several different community groups and there is no reason to learn pick up on your own if you do not want to. If I have a missed an event that you feel should be listed please do not hesitate to e-mail me.

Thursday, February 5
Title: First VibeFest of 2009
Host: VybeList / NYC Lair
Location: Chinatown Brasserie, 380 Lafayette St., New York, NY 10003
Time: 8:30 p.m.
Price: Free
Description: “Master Instructor of our 12 Week Program, Paul Bosche, will lead our first Vibe Fest of 2009! This is the official wingman meetup for the NYC Lair. We will all meet at the downstairs lounge of Chinatown Brasserie (make a left after you enter) between 8:30pm and 9pm ONLY. Afterwards, we will all go out in smaller, manageable groups. Yes, we will be pushing those who need it, into approaching and debrief afterwards. A great opportunity for those of you who just want real-time feedback from someone who knows - without having to trade for it.”

Thursday, February 5
Title: Sarge NYC Meetup
Location: TBD
Time: 9:00 p.m.

Saturday, February 7
Title: Image Consulting
Host: NYC Wingmen
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, 520 Eighth Avenue, 16th Floor, New York, NY 10018
Time: 7 p.m.
Price: $10
Description: “This Month our Speaker will be Ron Larson, he is professional image consultant and photographer. He had done photo shoots for GQ, Style, and various other fashion magazines. He was a judge at Miss America Contest. He will talk about styles that are currently in fashion, and then ones that never go old. If you want to learn what looks good on you, and some ideas on fashion and what to wear this is great place to start. He will talk about - How to mix colors. Some colors should never be worn together and some go together perfectly. Learn which is which. - Quick tips on looking trendy. - How to pick clothing, shopping tips - Individual advice. He will pick one guy at random and give him feed back and advice on clothing, hair style, skin tone, colors that go well with you and what to wear and not wear. If you would like to be that one person who is being reviews email me with request. - Overview of basic and more in depth fashion tips. Ron will talk about some cases of how few little things in appearance made big difference for some of his client.”

Sunday, February 8
Title: Let’s Go Window Shopping for Women – Featuring Race & Kelly from the Art of Charm
Host: VybeList / NYC Lair
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, 520 Eighth Avenue, 16th Floor, Room 16L, New York, NY 10018 Time: 6 – 9:30 p.m.
Price: $10 Members, $20 Non-Members
Description: “Race & Kelly from Art of Charm are our featured guest speakers on Sunday, February 8. Race & Kelly specialize in online pickup and we’ve had several requests from members to have them speak. So naturally, their topic this month is called, “Window Shopping For Women”. Why would you meet women online when you can meet women in person? We are not suggesting to meet women online INSTEAD of in person. However, why not use new tools to make what you are doing easier? Not only will you be meeting MORE women when you meet them online, you will also make it EASIER to meet women “in person”. Unlike in “real life”, when messaging a woman online you have time to think about what to say and how to respond. This completely reduces the anxiety of approaching an attractive woman the pressure of not knowing what to say. As you become more accustomed to successfully interacting with attractive women online in slow motion you begin to ingrain these habits into your subconscious and they become second nature. This allows you to become comfortable and competent at interacting with beautiful women in real time. In addition, there are more women online at any one time that at all the bars in your city combined. And since you decide on the criterion to search for it is like going to a bar that only lets in the exact type of women you are attracted to. How awesome is that!”

Thursday, February 12
Title: Sarge NYC Meetup
Location: TBD
Time: 9:00 p.m.

Friday, February 13
Title: Pre V-Day Sarge Outing
Host: NYC Wingmen
Location: TBD
Time: 9:30 p.m.
Description: “Finally, after a long winter hiatus, the Sarge Outings return! For the uninitiated this is an opportunity for you members to go out, have fun, meet new wings, try new strategies, and succeed all under the watchful eye of Assistant Organizers and mentors who will be there to critique and give feedback about your approaches. SPACE IS VERY LIMITED. I'll repeat that. SPACE IS VERY LIMITED. As such, I'll be opening up 6 spots for members. RSVP only if you absolutely know you'll be able to come out. The outing will be in Manhattan. Also, because of the extreme popularity of these outings those that RSVP for this outing will not be allowed to RSVP for the next. This includes instances where you RSVP and don't come along. This meetup will be targeted towards beginners and novices who wish to have initial approach, attract, and early closes critiqued. For those of you more advanced guys I encourage you to sign up as mentors, especially if you're looking for quality wings. The mentors I've worked with have all learned from myself, Art, and each other, and have seen great improvement of their game. They've also got a good pool of eligible wings in the process! Send me a message if you're interested in becoming a mentor. RSVP'S WILL OPEN ON FRIDAY, FEB 6 AT 12:00 PM NOON.”

Sunday, February 15
Title: Natural Game Seminar
Host: The Edge
Location: Pearl Studios NYC, 500 Eighth Avenue, 4th floor, RM 402, New York, NY
Time: 5 - 7 p.m.
Price: Free
Description: "This week I will be holding a Natural Game Seminar featuring some unexposed and talented PUA's in New York. The Seminar will be FREE, 2 hours long and followed by optional night game. The basis will be my own natural style, so expect some new ideas :-D Please email theedgemichael@gmail.com to confirm reservation."

Thursday, February 19
Title: Sarge NYC Meetup
Location: TBD
Time: 9:00 p.m.

Thursday, February 26
Title: Sarge NYC Meetup
Location: TBD
Time: 9:00 p.m.