Approach: Court Reporter

Location

LIRR Train to Long Island

Description

An attractive girl sitting in one of the opposite seats (two seats facing two seats)

Rating

6 - Attractive

Opener

1. “Hey, How’s it going? My name is _______.”

Transition Question

None

Kino

Yes, handshake and light kino on leg.

Close

Yes, Number Close

Details

I saw her sitting by herself in a two seat which faced another two seat. I originally walked by her and sat a seat across and behind from her. I cursed myself a few times for not opening her right away and then just got up and introduced myself (see opener above) and sat down. She asked me if I was a lawyer and then we continued from there. The interaction was pretty good, however she kept texting someone throughout which I found irritating. Towards the end of the ride she asked me if I had facebook. I took this as an IOI and told her she seems cool and we should hang out some times and we swapped phones and entered in each other’s information. She lives in Long Island unlike two of the girls I’m currently seeing who live in Manhattan. I’m considering following through with this one, not sure yet, her ADD with her text messaging irritated me slightly.

Approach: Marina

Location

LIRR Train to Brooklyn

Description

An average looking woman sat next to me in a two seater.

Rating

5.5 - Average

Opener

1. “Hey, How’s it going?”

Transition Question

None

Kino

None

Close

No

Details

I was on my way to Brooklyn on the LIRR and an average looking woman sat next to me. In a very friendly voice I said “Hey, How’s it going?” She responded by repeating what I said. Her accent sounded very strong and part of me was not in the mood to have a conversation with someone I couldn’t understand very well so I decided to turn away. She started playing on her blackberry and I started texting a friend. I noticed she was trying to read what I was texting and then she re-opened me with “Are you going on a job interview?, You are all dressed up.” And at that point I just decided to have a conversation with her. The conversation went fairly well.

Conquest Over Masturbation: Month 2

Another successful month completed (60 Days Total). I looked at porn once and that was in the beginning of the month. I haven’t looked at any since and I have almost no urges anymore to masturbate. Kicking the Habit has been more rewarding than I anticipated. I am very proud of myself and enjoy the increased free time and energy I have. Hopefully month 3 will be just as successful :-)

Date: College Intern

There is a college intern at my place of work that I made plans with for the night. We went out for a couple of drinks, bantered, developed rapport, had light kino. This is the first time I used Vin DiCarlo's Escalation Ladder and it worked very well. Went back to her place, hung out for awhile, I had her sit on my lap while we played on her computer a bit and then when we got up for a moment I made out with her. Later on we made out again. Touching her behind under her clothes, her vagina over her clothes, and feeling up her breasts under her clothes. We have lunch plans for tomorrow and tentative plans for next week.

Approach: Kat

Location

LIRR Train to Long Island

Description

Very Cute girl in a three seat with another guy. I sat between them.

Rating

6.5 - Attractive

Opener

1. “Where are you coming from?”
2. “Why do you have gloves that don’t cover your fingers?”

Transition Question

“Where are you coming from?”

Kino

Yes, light touching on her leg.

Close

No

Details

I sat between her and another guy (they weren’t together) and I tried to open with “Where are you coming from?” She said coming from dinner with a friend and then that was it, nothing, she said something but I couldn’t understand what she said and she kinda turned away. And then about two minutes later I noticed her gloves didn’t cover her finger tips and I asked her about it and she said she had no winter clothes and lives in Australia in Melbourne. It was a very wonderful conversation and if she wasn’t back to Australia in a few days I think I would have number closed her, she seemed really cool and the conversation was going super great. There was banter and rapport building and light kino.

Approach: Julie

Location

NYC Subway (1) Line to Uptown

Description

Average woman came into car while I was already sitting in it and sat next to me.

Rating

5 - Average

Opener

“You look like you just couldn’t wait to get that pen out and start that crossword puzzle.”

Transition Question

“Where are you coming from?”

Kino

Yes, light touching on her leg.

Close

No

Details

She came into the subway car and sat next to me. I opened with the above and then transitioned. She works for a fashion company as a buyer. It was very good conversation and made my ride go relatively quickly. I applied light kino to her leg in conversation. I had no desire to close.

Approach: Monica

Location

LIRR Train to Manhattan

Description

Pretty woman sitting in an empty car.

Rating

6 - Attractive

Opener

“Hey, how’s it going”

Transition Question

“Are you a teacher?”

Kino

None

Close

No

Details

Finally a situation that worked out well unlike the last two others in which I was sitting across from her across an aisle. She is a 8th grade teacher and was grading papers. She even stopped grading them about ten minutes into our conversation. We had very good rapport and conversation going and it was a very pleasant experience. She was married so I let it go even though she walked with me all the way into Penn Station and said she hopes to see me on the train again, even though we probably never will, I hardly ever run into people twice.

Approach: Crysta

Location

LIRR Train

Description

Average looking girl seated in a two seat and basically in an empty car, reading a fashion magazine.

Rating

5.5 - Average

Opener

“Reading anything interesting?”

Transition Question

“Where are you coming from?”

Kino

None

Close

No

Details

Yet another horrible interaction with a girl when sitting across from her on the LIRR. Maybe it is the physical proximity that is causing problems, but this is twice and it seems to result in these circumstances. If I am talking elsewhere with a girl or if I sit next to a girl they stop what they are doing and interact with me fairly quickly, but this girl just kept reading her magazine as we interacted, just like the last LIRR girl went about her crossword puzzle. I find it a bit rude, but besides the physical circumstances, the only other commonality between the two of them were that they were both boring as shit. They probably are so boring because they aren’t socially calibrated, but I have to also consider that I’m doing something wrong in these situations. We will have to see if it keeps happening. She works for a shoe company and since she was so interested in fashion I tried to get a clothing store recommendation out of her, but she was useless. Still have two more of those to go for Day 4 of The Stylelife Challenge.

Day 2 Date: Hiccups

Location

Bar, NYC

Duration

2 Hours

Rating

6 – Attractive (Cute)

Kino

Yes

Future Plans

Yes, Tentative

Details

I had my Day 2 with Hiccups. We went to a bar for a couple of drinks. We started off sitting across from each other but I wanted to be able to kino so I remedied the situation by first finding a reason to sit to her left and then later on find a reason to sit next to her.

Her friend called her about an hour and a half in and told her she would be there in twenty minutes. Her friend was staying the night for an interview in the city the next day and wasn’t expected to come in until later that night.

I kissed Hiccups but she felt shy. Her reasonging was that the venue was more of a restaurant than a bar and she felt self conscious of people looking at us.

I walked her to where her friend was going to pick her up and she asked me to kiss her before her friend came so it wouldn’t look awkward and then it seemed like she wanted to kiss again when the friend did actually come but I just hugged her instead.

The evening went very well overall, there was plenty of banter, we were in deep rapport, and there was plenty of kino, and we talked about getting together next week. We’ll see. I’m going out with a different girl on Thursday so no pressure with anyone.

Approach: Nikki

Location

LIRR Train

Description

Average looking girl seated in a two seat and basically in an empty car, listening to music and playing a cross word puzzle.

Rating

5 - Average

Opener

“Hey, how’s it going, what are you playing?”

Transition Question

“Where are you coming from?”

Kino

None

Close

No

Details

Depending what stop I get off at I either go to the last car in the train or any car is fine. When I do not have to go to the last car I normally walk the length of the train and choose an attractive girl to sit next to in a relatively full train so it isn’t awkward to sit next to her. In this instance it was the last car type of stop. The front of the train was packed, but the last car was basically empty. I sat in the three seat directly across from Nikki. She looked at me immediately since I suppose it was obvious I was going to talk to her since the area of the train was empty and there would be no other reason for me to sit where I chose to sit.

Kino was not practical, we had an aisle between us.

The conversation lasted about 45 minutes, and rapport was being built, however, she never stopped listening to music, playing her crossword puzzle, and text messaging someone the entire time. It was a little frustrating and I actually just found her to be a bit boring and rude. I had no intention of number closing or anything else for that matter, but it was good practice…especially since I haven’t opened a girl in a train in such an obvious manner yet.

Approach: Irena

Location

Penn Station, NYC

Description

Pretty girl with head phones on and holding a Snapple bottle waiting for the LIRR screen to tell her what track her train was on.

Rating

6.5 - Attractive - Very Attractive

Opener

“What is your Snapple fun fact?”

Transition Question

“Where are you coming from?”

Kino

Yes, light touching on the arm.

Close

No

Details

I have decided to basically approach any girl holding a Snapple bottle because opening them is just so darn easy. In this instance I opened and then move to my default transition question when approaching women while using public transportation, which is either “where are you coming from” or “where are you headed.” I then just bantered and built rapport. After her response from, “where are you coming from,” I asked if she works or goes to school and then delved deeper from there until the conversation was cut short by the LIRR screen telling me my track number. I think I could have number closed in this instance, but I really didn’t much care. It is all in good practice and I am expanding the venues in which I approach women. I made sure I used kino. It is becoming more and more a part of me and feels very natural at this point. I do it all the time without even thinking much about it anymore and easily escalate, especially during night game. The only time I become self conscious of it is when there is some sort of physical barrier preventing me from applying kino.

Rating Girls

I have heard differing views in the community on whether or not it is appropriate to rate girls. I have always rated girls and will continue to do so. My scale is a tad bit different from most and I have posted it permanently on the left of this page. I will refer to it in my Approach, Field, and Lay Reports. I do not think it is demeaning to women and I find it very helpful for myself to compare the attractiveness of different women and also for others to have a better understanding of who I am interacting with. Women can also be described by different adjectives, such as cute, pretty, hot, etc. I think these mean something and perhaps I will add definitions as well.

Just so everyone understands, I will sleep with a five and higher. My preference is a 6.5 and above. To me, a girl above a 6.5 is without a doubt attractive.

Personality does play a large role in ratings. A girls rating will go up or down depending on her personality, therefore a girl I don’t speak with will probably have a higher rating than had I actually communicated with her since most women lose points.

I’m not sure if there is a 10 out there, but to me a 10 is the perfect woman and I am doubtful of her existence. Such a person would need to have all the qualities I look for, that is physical, mental, and spiritually.

The Rating System

I am very strict with this scale. No one has yet obtained a 10. What most people consider a 10 is more like a 7 - 7.5 on my scale.

10 – Perfect (We all have flaws, it is doubtful a true 10 exists or ever did exist, but you never know)
09 – Almost Perfect (At this point it is no longer just about physical attractiveness, personality definetly comes into play)
08 – Beautiful
07 – Very Attractive
06 – Attractive
05 – Average
04 – Unattractive
03 – Very Unattractive
02 – Hideous
01 – Road Kill

The Stylelife Challenge (Technically Completed)

The ultimate goal of the challenge is to get you a date in 30 days. That is completed, but not as a result of the challenge. I'm a good looking guy that is pretty good with women, but I'm looking to move myself up in skill level to the next level and beyond. I will continue to do the challenge and complete all 30 days simply because it is a way of pushing myself to do things that may not be comfortable and to expand my social skills even further. If you do not challenge yourself you will stagnate and die.

FR: Hiccups Girl (Date Scheduled)

Hiccups Girl sent me a text message on Monday asking if I would be able to come hang out with her for the following Monday after her friend left. We made plans. I will update this to tell you how it will go.

The weird part about this is that I don't even really remember what she looks like or really anything about her. I really only interacted with her for about 10 - 15 minutes the night we met and most of that was making out. But even so, I think I should remember what she looks like a little better, I didn't have anything to drink that night. I got to know her a little bit better in my 10 - 15 minute phone conversation with her, so hopefully she is a cool girl and we click and is interesting, because I'm not getting involved with people that are dead weight. I'm a selector and not a settler.

The Stylelife Challenge: Day 4 (Mission 2 of 3)

Okay, I admit I did not complete Day 3, however, I will get it completed, I just didn't want to stay stuck with it and decided to move ahead in the mean time.

Day 4 requires me to approach three women and ask them to recommend a cool local clothing store that carries menswear.

On Saturday night I went out to a bar and met a girl that just so happened to be a personal shopper. She recommended Barney's if I wanted to spend a lot and Banana Republic if I wasn't interested in spending a significant amount of cash.

That makes 1/3 approaches complete, two more to go :-)

NYC Lair: Sebastian Drake (The Approach)

This month's NYC Lair meeting was about Relationship Building. I thought Sebastian Drake gave a fantastic presentation. I had absolutely no idea who Sebastian Drake was prior to this meeting. This is one of the reasons going to lair meetings is so beneficial, you get to meet local members of the community and also better known ones and they provide a seminar for a very insignificant price which is otherwise worth at least a few hundred dollars.

FR: Hiccup Girl (Phone Game)

On Monday, mid day I did a little texting back and forth with hiccup girl and then called her a little after 7pm. We chatted for maybe fifteen minutes and I attempted to make plans with her but her friend from out of state was visiting for the weekend. She asked me to come out with them but I declined. I have no interest in being evaluated by her friends. If this advances any further I will post an update.

FR: Kiss Close: Hiccup Girl

I was at a friend’s party at a bar in New York City last night. It was an okay night so far, just one phone number and around 12:30AM I was about to switch to another bar where another friend was having a party. As a side note, I had absolutely nothing to drink the entire night.

While on the line to the coat check a pretty girl opened me. She was telling me it was her friend’s birthday and I chatted with them for a few seconds but they seemed a little out of it from drinking.

I continued toward the coat check and a few seconds later I ended up in front of a cute third girl from that group and she immediately started touching me and talking to me. She was completely all over me.

We chatted for a little bit and then one of the bar employees told us the wall we were using was only for waiting on the line for the coat check so I took the girl by the hand and walked her to a sitting area and sat down, thereby isolating her from her friends.

Within a second of sitting down she started making out with me. I seriously had to do almost nothing. I just had a strong frame, made sure I kept the kino high, and led the interaction as much as was needed.

The funny part about the whole thing was that she had the hiccups and every few seconds she would hiccup and we would both laugh hysterically. We exchanged numbers, made out some more, but I had another party to go to. I told her that and that I would give her a call and she got so upset with me. She told me year right. She completely thought I was rejecting her.

I actually think that she wanted me to go home with her. I got a text from her around 2 am and I responded around 3 am telling her that it was nice meeting her and for her to have a good night. I referred to her as hiccups in the text.

From meet to make out lasted maybe 5 – 10 minutes.

Social Updates

I'm getting really good at this talking to almost everyone thing. If a girl comes into my proximity I begin a conversation. Today I swapped numbers with a 21 year old intern at work and on the way home on the train I chatted with two different girls. The first was some high school jail bait and we had a great interaction, the second was with an architect and it was like pulling teeth. She was very reserved. She even made a comment that it sounded like I was interrogating her, but it was just that she was very closed off until a few minutes in to the interaction when I began story telling that she began opening up. I'm going to move to actively approaching girls in different venues soon :-)

Product Review: Vin DiCarlo: Dating Diablo

This is an eight chapter audio program with a corresponding eight chapter workbook. The product establishes a basic framework for pickup. It is not a very advanced product but it does provide a lot of good material, especially for beginners. The product covers Basic concepts, Beliefs and Inner Game, Fashion, Approaching and Conversation, Phone Game and Getting Dates, Dating, Escalation and Sex, and Relationships. If you are a beginner I would recommend it, if you are beyond that level then this product will probably be of only minor significance to the improvement of your game.

The Style Life Challenge

Okay, so I know I'm still stuck on Day 3. I just don't like to move on until I actually complete something. I have been calling numbers trying to get movie recommendations, but I just haven't had the time to sit there and call a large quantity of numbers to get the job done. Hopefully I get it done and can move on to Day 4 relatively soon :-)

Social Updates

Okay, since my last social updates post I have changed some of my behavior. So since January 18th I've been trying to open as many girls as I can and interacting with as many people as I can. I have been chatting up people at work, on the train, on line...basically everywhere. Yesterday I opened a girl asing her what her snapple fun fact was (the fact that snapple provides under their bottle caps), that went pretty well. I have not been number closing or kiss closing or anything like that, I'm just trying to work on the opening and building attraction and my conversation skills with strangers and will move from there. But so far I'm very happy with this shift. It is becoming easier and easier to talk to strangers.