Dating Update: Hiccups & College Intern

Hiccups
I have had really no contact with Hiccups since the last date. She is Jewish, I accidently sent her a Happy Easter on Sunday and I received a reply. I sent her a text message saying, “Hey Sleeping Beauty ;-)” on Wednesday, around mid day, but I did not receive a response. She didn’t respond to my midweek text last week, but I had called her in the evening anyhow and made plans, but this time I chose not to because I really believe she intentionally did not respond. I have no idea what is going on with her. I know she made an event on facebook for her birthday coming up at the end of April and I wasn’t invited, but I am not reading into that.

I feel we have kind have fallen into the dating frame a bit too much and I really lost a lot of interest in her after the last date. I’m putting all contact with her on hold from my end unless I receive some sort of response from her until I message her a happy birthday on her birthday. At least that is the plan for now, unless any of my wonderful readers wish to chime in and encourage me otherwise or something else develops.

The fact that she went on vacation two weeks ago messed up my rhythm. We were seeing each other every weekend and I wanted to insert an artificial break, but her vacation kinda threw a wrench into that for me and created a break that I would have preferred to have control over. Now I’m just trying to refrain from sending unnecessary texts or calling her so I don’t come off as needy in any way.

College Intern

This one is acting bizarre. We had spoken before her spring break and everything was fine. I texted her during the week (two weeks ago). No response, I called in the evening and left a message, no return call. This past week I messaged her on Wednesday midday, we went back and forth a couple of times, I called her in the evening, but she didn’t pickup and I decided I wasn’t in the mood for her either and hung up without leaving a message. I get a text on Friday from her apologizing for not calling me back and that she was swamped with stuff and would talk to me soon. I’m kinda feeling that she is very inexperienced with men and I’m losing interest in her as well. I decided to do the same thing as I’m doing with Hiccups and just cutting off contact until she decides to pick up the phone or text message me, unless for whatever reason I decide otherwise. The end result though in both cases is that I am definitely refusing any contact towards them without something first for a minimum of two weeks and then I will reevaluate my decision to see if I want to drop them completely.

Social Updates

Other than girls I am involved with--Hiccups, College Intern, and my Primary (we will name her Munchkin)--there are two girls in my life that I am interested in.

One I with and also take a class with and another I am very close friends with who also takes classes with me. The one I work with will be graduating at the end of this semester and that is when I will pursue her, however the other one who I am very close friends with also goes to the school I go to and she is not graduating until I do.

She just broke up with her boyfriend and I am very very hesitant to push it above the level we are already at simply because I have become involved in a relationship with someone at school in the past and that resulted in disaster. Right now I am very physical with her, very flirty, and have given her a very sexual nickname that I call her by (Sex Muffin-which she shall forevermore be called on this blog). She doesn't discourage any of my behavior but in my opinion enjoys it. I think she herself is hesitant with me because she knows about Hiccups, College Intern, and Munchkin and also that I go out and meet new girls all the time.

Other than the above two girls, there is really no one else on the horizon. I continue to approach girls. Right now in regards to technique and game I am focusing on improving my approaching and want to branch it out to more diverse situations and types of openers.

Date: Hiccups

Location
New York City

Duration
4hrs

Venues
1) Her Place
2) Ice Cream Shop
3) Pizzaria
4) Off-Off Broadway Show
5) Her Place

Rating
6 – Attractive (Cute)

Total Time Spent Together
26hrs

Mystery Method Model Status
C3

Details
I have very mixed feelings about last night. The date plan itself went very well. She really enjoyed the ice cream and the pizza and then we headed to the show. The show itself wasn’t that good, but it was fun. Then we headed back to her place because she was exhausted. She wouldn’t stop yawning. I suggested we get some coffee, but she wanted to go to bed. I had no idea what to do. We went back to her place and she changed into pajamas and we watched a little television and she fell asleep. Apparently she only had gotten at most 4 hours of sleep the night before. I do not think all this was intentional, but I have no idea and it just was a big turnoff. She knows I come in from Long Island and I took her out to a very nice evening, the least she can do is get some sleep and not be ready to go to sleep at 9:30. I decided to leave at 10:30 when she fell asleep on the couch and I woke her up when I asked her something. We didn’t even make out, just a kiss here and there. I don’t know, the whole thing just was very blah.

VH1’s The Pickup Artist: Season 2 – It’s Official

I received an e-mail from The Venusian Arts and VH1 will be continuing The Pickup Artist into a second season. They are doing an online casting call at http://pickupartist2casting.com/ where anyone can basically try out in a 10 week online competition to be voted (by us internet users) to be one of the eight participants on the show that will air in the fourth quarter of 2008. The show will be an 8 week season and the end result will be the last man standing being named Master Pick-Up Artist and receiving 50k.

I enjoyed season 1 but I honestly do not believe that the community will ever become main stream. I have said it before and I will say it again, people will always be skeptical of this stuff actually working and for it to work requires such dedication and effort that most people won’t bother, it runs contrary to most peoples’ desire for an immediate fix. That is why the stay of most visitors to the community is so short…they just want that one pickup line that will do the trick…that one great opener, and they aren’t willing to put in the effort for anything more, so their visit is short.

I just hope that this season has all AFCs that would otherwise have not the slightest chance. Last season’s final two obviously were just decent looking guys who needed some help. Let those idiots fend for themselves, I want to see beauty and the geek style guys on this season. And they should really try hard this time to weed out any wannabe actors, it just adds unnecessary controversy to the show.

Style Guide: The Correct Length of a Man’s Tie


I have a professor that wears his ties several inches above his belt. To me it looks horrendous. I asked my lady friend sitting next to me what she thought. She told me that she agreed that wearing a tie a few inches above the belt does not look appealing but her ex-boyfriend had told her that is how it is supposed to sit. However, I’ve been told and have been adhering to the practice that ties should fall between the top and bottom of my belt buckle. Apparently, among men, if asked, there is some disagreement on this, but according to my internet research the correct length of a tie is…drum roll please… that the tie should indeed fall at the belt (between the top and bottom of the belt buckle), not several inches above it.

Dating Update: Hiccups

I talked on the phone with Hiccups tonight. It was a 15 minute conversation. I should have gotten off at 10, but I don’t think any real damage was done, just wasteful unnecessary conversation. I have made plans with her for Saturday evening.

The date plan you ask?

It is an Off-Off Broadway production written and directed by a former acting teacher of mine. The tickets come out to thirty dollars total. The play will either be brilliant or horrendous, but I get to see an old friend in the process that will soon be leaving New York.

But Yummy, what about after the show?

I want to keep away from alcohol after the previous date with Hiccups involved some technical difficulty with my equipment. How embarrassing! So I say just coffee at Star Bucks and then off to her place ;-) or in the alternative, just right back to her place :-) I’m not sure how long the show is (hopefully not interminably long), so it all depends on how we feel.

Approach: College Drop Out

Location

LIRR Train to Brooklyn

Description

An attractive girl got on at my stop and the car was empty.

Rating

6.5 - Attractive

Opener

1. “Hey, is that the Governor's Prostitute?"

Transition Question

“Where are you headed?”

Kino

Yes, Handshake

Close

Attempted # Close

Details

I saw an attractive girl reading a newspaper on the platform waiting for the LIRR. When we entered the car it was empty. She sat down in a three seat and I sat one row back, across from her. I saw she opened her newspaper and was looking at the photos of the governor’s prostitute. I got up and asked her if those were pictures of the Governor’s prostitute and she said they were and I asked if she didn’t mind if I took a look and I sat down next to her. We chatted a bit about the Governor’s situation and bantered a bit, then I transitioned to “where are you headed?” She told me she was going to work, a place her aunt owned in the city. I began building rapport and I noticed we were coming to Jamaica, where I would be transferring to a different train so I told her that she seemed cool and let’s swap numbers, and that is when she told me she had a boyfriend. I think I could have still number closed, but I was out of time, I had to get off the train, so I ejected. I figure that since she takes the same train as me I may run into her again and take it from there, but it was good practice :-)

Product Review: Get the Girl by Mehow

I have read a few pickup books and I have always found the Venusian Arts Handbook by Mystery to be, by far, the best seduction book I’ve ever read. Get the Girl by Mehow is the closest in quality and detail that has so far come to the Venusian Arts Handbook and I recommend it to beginners and advanced students of seduction. It covers everything, from the very beginning to the very end of seduction. Almost every question and hole I had remaining in my understanding and knowledge base of seduction was answered and filled by Mehow and I recommend this product to everyone reading this.

The organization was very well done as well as the presentation. It is a very professional looking product as are most of his products.

The chapters are as follows:

1) Pickup Theory
2) Opening with “The Social Opener”
3) Three Minute Attraction
4) Comfort
5) Contingencies and Interrupts
6) Phone Game
7) The Day 2

And of course each chapter is broken down into much smaller sections. The entire book is 156 pages and is chock full of not only theory but also plenty of examples. You also have the added benefit of seeing him use his own material in field through hidden cameras by watching clips from his Infield Insider product on You Tube, his website (mehow.tv) or by ordering his actual products.

Update: Court Reporter

Court Reporter was a girl I met on the LIRR two weeks ago and who I number closed. We texted back and forth briefly and I said “Lets get together later next week.” She never responded and I forgot all about her.

Then yesterday I receive this text:
“Hey im sorry I didn’t answer or tell u but I have a boyfriend and that mite b weird if I hang out w some random guy u know”

I ignored it for a few hours and then responded:

Me: “Well, alright, that’s cool…he can, like, cook for us and we can have a nice dinner ;-P”
Her: “Haha noo Ive been w him a while now lol.”
Me: “Ah well, he doesn’t cook then, but im sure he can at least manage some pop tarts;-)”
Her: “Uhh ok ha”

Now I thought she was boring when I first met her and just continued the interaction and attempting to set up the Day 2 for practice, but I found this text message very interesting and am having trouble understanding why she sent it.

It seems like it is an IOI that she sent it and I’m skeptical if there is even a boyfriend to begin with, and notice how she said it might be weird to hang out, but she didn’t say she wouldn’t.

I have no idea what to do with this but I’m curious to see if I can turn this into a meet up just for fun, to see if I can work it.

Any suggestions?

Date: College Intern

Location

New York City

Duration

5.5hrs

Venues

1) Her Place
2) Bakery
3) Another Bakery
4) Her Place
5) Pool Hall
6) Her Place

Rating

6 – Attractive (Cute)

Total Time to Date

10hrs

Mystery Method Model Status

C2

Details

I met up at College Intern at her dorm around 7pm and took her to a cupcake bakery. The plan was the same was with Hiccups, except there was a hiccup. Her suitemates wanted cupcakes so that meant we had to go back to her dorm, which was a hassle. I ended up taking her to two different cupcake bakeries and we did a taste test, it was fun and a bit different from the date with Hiccups, though Hiccups was way more fun. We went back to her dorm for a few minutes to drop off the cupcakes and then headed to the pool hall, had a drink each and then played an hour of pool. We then headed back up to her place, at which point we made out a little, I felt her up a little again and again she kicked me out saying it was past her bed time. She didn’t offer to pay for anything during the night and I footed the bill. I have to say, the date concept was solid – cupcake bakery to pool hall, but I’m thinking they can both stand on their own.

Honestly though, this is getting old, and quickly. This girl is way too shy and timid and this whole past her bedtime nonsense is really silly. She has a midterm next week and then is gone for spring break for two weeks, so I won’t see her for a bit, which I couldn’t really care less. She gets one more shot and nothing more. I will hang out with her again, a third time at 7 and plan something really small, probably a movie and takeout, and that is absolutely it. Make sure I’m locked into her place. If this doesn’t escalate and I get a bedtime line again, I’m just walking. I’m not courting this girl to get married or be my girlfriend, if she puts out we can have a fun and exciting relationship, if she doesn’t, she can go hang out with someone else.

Date: Hiccups (BJ Report)

Location

New York City

Duration

14hrs

Venues

1) Her Place
2) Bakery
3) Pool Hall
4) Bar
5) Her Place
6) Breakfast

Rating

6 – Attractive (Cute)

Total Time to Date

22hrs

Mystery Method Model Status

S2

Details

I met up at Hiccups apartment around 7pm and took her to a cupcake bakery and then headed over to a pool hall followed by a bar. I had way too much to drink and we both spent way too much money, mostly one liquor. Go back to her place and clothes started coming off, the only problem was that I had drank way too much and had technical difficulties, so there was no way we were going to be able to have sex. Even without getting fully hard she gave me a blow job and I came, but it just sucked. Note to self…stay sober. I had this happen once before, it just is really frustrating and obviously I’m an idiot if I do it again. I stayed over her place and went at a second go in the morning, which I thought was a mistake to do, because again I couldn’t really get hard. I should have waited until later in the morning.

Overall I really enjoyed my time with her, she is cute and fun and we have very good rapport. I also think that our dates need to get shorter…too much time and money is spent out.

Dating Updates: Hiccups & College Intern

I have a date scheduled with Hiccups on Friday and College Intern on Saturday. I still am undecided on what I want to do. I’m playing with a couple of ideas, but obviously I have to decide soon because the first one is up in a little over 24hrs.

[Update]

Okay, so I planned it out, a very fun, simple and inexpensive date and once again basically the same one for both (makes life easier on me). I will share what the Dates are after they conclude and the results of the Dates in the Date Report posted here on this blog :-)

Dating Updates: Hiccups & College Intern

College Intern decided to text message me last night and tell me she is feeling better and wants to hang out again soon. Hiccups also sent me a message, on facebook last night. I have decided to give College Intern another chance, but I have not decided what I want to do with her because I do not feel comfortable planning anything with her after her flaking, regardless if she was really sick or not. I will give them both a call on Wednesday and make weekend plans. I still have not decided on a date idea yet, but there are plenty of choices, so there shouldn’t be any worries.

Sexual Endurance

Having sexual endurance is important, no guy wants to be a 1 minute man and no girl wants to be with one.

In the 60+ days since I’ve stopped masturbating I have noticed that my sexual endurance has decreased.

However, I don’t think it is physical, but rather I think it is psychological.

I find that at this point I have almost no urge to look at pornography or masturbate. However, when I have sex now I have a strong desire to be satisfied whereas when I had been masturbating I was not in any rush. Because of this I believe I haven’t been taking my time in the sack resulting in unimpressive performances.

I now have to consciously and deliberately take it extremely slow in the beginning.

The great thing is though that I noticed as long as I can get past the five minute mark I can go for almost as long as I want (20 + minutes). I think the nerve endings at that point become slightly desensitized or something and I am able to go as fast and as hard as I want with almost no risk of coming without my say so. I have also been doing Kegel Exercises for the last month and my orgasms have been more intense. Here is a link for more information on Kegel Exercises and their benefits:

http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html

Product Review: Mehow: Get the Girl Infield Insider: February 2008

February was night game with Asian Playboy. I have been following Asian Playboy’s work for awhile and sadly wasn’t able to attend the NYC Lair's March meeting (I had improv class) in which he was the featured guest. However, even though I have a very high opinion of Asian Playboy, the footage in the February edition left a lot to be desired. Some of the sets came off as amateurish and it appeared that he was bragging about being featured in Asian Weekly a bit too much while in set. I do not know what the issue is, but between January and February’s releases, the footage just hasn’t been up to my standards and I have no idea what Mehow is doing over there on Planet Mehow. Mehow then goes on to act as though what we are watching is up to par, which it is not. One thing that is puzzling is that if you watch Mehow, it is obviously he knows his stuff, so I just cannot understand why he keeps choosing poor examples his featured guests in set. I’m sure Asian Playboy produced much better quality sets than what was shown and if it was a few off approaches then they should have filmed some more, no one is dead on 100% of the time, I don’t care who you are. Mehow needs to do some work on his Infield Insider Monthly Program, and do it fast.

Date: College Intern

I basically had the same exact evening planned out that I had for hiccups, but my date flaked. She called me around 3:30 and told me she woke up with a fever in the morning and didn’t think it would be a good idea to hang out. Based upon her tone and what she was saying, I do believe she would have hung out if I pushed it and she was probably sincere that she had a fever and I suppose the reason she waited so long to call was to see if she felt better but the end result was someone flaking on me 3 ½ hours before the date and with two tickets to a comedy show that I could not get refunded. I was pretty ticked off and she lost some major points with me.

On the phone she wanted to know if it would be alright if we hung out perhaps later in the coming week or next weekend and looking back I think I was a bit dismissive with her on the phone, but rightly so. I ended up bringing a girl I’ve been seeing for awhile with me, but I hate silliness.

I think if she text messages me or calls me I will ignore it for a day or two if not indefinitely. I do not know if I am even interested at this point. Part of me is always going to be skeptical about the fever…I had lunch with her the day before and she didn’t look at all like she was coming down with anything. I just don’t like having people in my life that I cannot depend on and this is just a sign of that and an indication that it would not be wise to plan an elaborate date with this girl that requires any sort of money down before hand because who knows if it will happen or not. I think I may just cut her loose.

Enough venting.

Date: Hiccups

Location

New York City

Duration

4.5 hrs

Venues

1) Her Place
2) Pizza Place
3) Bar
4) Comedy Show
5) Her Place

Rating

6 – Attractive (Cute)

Total Time to Date

8hrs

Mystery Method Model Status

C2 – C3

Details

Last night I had a second date with hiccups. We grabbed a slice a pizza, went to a bar for a few drinks and then to a sketch comedy show. This is the first time I was in her place. I had just gotten off of work and I had a portfolio with me and made sure I left it at her place, along with my tie for a legitimate reason to have to go back there later. She hadn’t had dinner yet so we grabbed a slice of pizza (I paid), and then went to a bar (she paid), then headed to a sketch comedy show (I pre-paid), and then headed back to her place. I wasn’t able to escalate physically to the degree I wanted because her and her roommate were heading over to a friend’s place in New Jersey to spend the night and get an early start of St. Patrick’s Day. This is the second time she has had something occurring immediately after we’ve hung out which is odd, though I do not think intentional.

We have extremely good rapport, I find her attractive and she is a lot of fun. So far I am still pretty interested in her, no signs of any instability and nothing obvious that would disqualify her, so I’m going to arrange a third date.