Video of the Week: How To Be The Life Of The Party

The vast majority of people find partners from their social circle. The better you become at increasing the size of your social circle, hosting parties, and succeeding at events hosted by others, the richer your social and sex life will be. That is why it is important to know how to work a room and to be the life of a party. David Wygant, in my opinion is one of the better dating coaches out there. He explains how to work a room and be the life of a party in the video found below.


Social Circle Game: May Events

My calendar is basically booked for May. This weekend I am going out with a bunch of girls to a bar in the city then I have the NYC Lair meeting the next day. Skip ahead in the month and I organized a team to walk in the NYC AIDS Walk and then I set up a Wings night the following night. The wings night takes place at a bar and the bar is basically a place that does 10c wings on specific nights, so a group of us will go there and stuff ourselves silly over drinks. Then comes the next UFC party a week later. The UFC party format basically consists of three hours of socializing, drinking, and drinking games and then three hours of MMA fights from the UFC on PPV. As of right now I do not plan on adding any more events to May that I am hosting, though I will of course go out with girls, friends, etc, during available days :-)

I have not yet decided what I want to do in the months of June, July, and August, but I have some ideas. There will of course be UFC parties most likely once a month. Aside from that I want to have at least two BBQs, a bar hop, a group gathering at an all you can eat rips place in New Jersey, a game of Dodge Ball and Sky Diving. I have all the information for the skydiving and I have been putting out feelers to see people’s interest. The only issue of course with skydiving is the price. While many may be interested, the price tag will prevent many from partaking. As for the Dodge Ball, if I am going to organize an event I need to be sure I have control over the venue. Therefore I’ve been contacting facilities to rent an indoor basketball court to play dodge ball in for about a 2-3 hour block of time. The cheapest I’ve found so far is 85 an hour and the most expensive 150 an hour. The most I want to charge participants is 10 dollars, but preferably 5. Until I can find a suitable location, Dodge Ball is a no go, but I have confidence.

Other than that I have organized a list of several dozen activities that I think would be very fun to set up with groups between 10 – 30 people. Event planning is actually pretty damn fun.

Approach: Future Arts & Culture Journalist

Location

LIRR to Long Island

Description

Girl standing by herself in the train car with lots of luggage.

Rating

4 - Unattractive

Opener

“Is that duffle bag yours?”

Transition Question

“Where are you heading with that huge thing?”

Kino

Don't Remember...Probably

Close

None

Details

I was with Munchkin Brain on the LIRR and we ended up next to this girl so I decided to opener her. She really seemed extremely shy and socially awkward, so I just played the dancing monkey and had both Munchkin Brain and her Hysterical laughing between my comments and my teasing of Future Journalist girl. She was a college senior on her way home from college with a bag full of dirty laundry. It was a fun interaction, but completely meaningless.

Approach: Blue Girl

Location

NYC Subway, Lower East Side

Description

Girl sitting by herself in a train car

Rating

7 – Very Attractive

Opener

“Is blue your favorite color?”

Transition Question

“I’m heading to ________, do you know any good places to get lunch there?”

Kino

None

Close

None

Details

I saw her sitting by herself when I entered the car so I sat a seat away from her. She was almost all blue so I opened her with “Is blue your favorite color?” She had shitty body language and she responded with “Today I guess it is.” She just didn’t look like she was in the mood to begin with. I transitioned and she said she wasn’t familiar with the area because she was from uptown. I inquired as to what brought her out this far. She gave me a nonsense answer and then thankfully her stop came and I was rid of her. She was just not being friendly. I think my energy level was crap also and I could have done a better job opening, not necessarily with the opener but just the way I opened. Either way, her mood definitely matched her wardrobe color.

Approach: Union Square Dancing Chick

Location

Union Square

Description

Girl sitting by herself on the stairs.

Rating

5.5 - Average

Opener

“What song are you snapping your fingers to?”

Transition Question

After responding to my opener, she transitioned to, “It’s a really nice day out.” In which I said, “Yea, what brings you out here on this nice day?”

Kino

Yes, light kino on the arm and the leg

Close

None

Details

I saw her sitting by herself so I came and sat down pretty close next to her. I think she knew I was going to opener her since she kept looking at me, but I had a brain fart. Anyway, about a minute after sitting down she begins to snap her fingers so I situationally open her. She transitioned for me and then we proceeded to have an interaction that lasted about 45 minutes at which point I decided to bail. She was very nice, not bad looking, and interesting, but not my type. I decided not to close. I always feel bad when I close and don’t call so I just don’t bother to with the ones I’m really not interested in. By the way, she gets the name Union Square Dancing Chick because of the location + her occupation.

Approach: Asian Cake

Location

Bar in Manhattan

Description

Asian Cake was at the bar next to me retrieving half a birthday cake from her friend’s birthday to take home.

Rating

4.5 - Unattractive

Opener

“What a jip, they only gave you half a cake”

Transition Question

None, I opted for the cake.

Kino

None

Close

Cake Close

Details

I was in a bar in the city with Munchkin Brain. She went off to the restroom and Asian Cake came over to retrieve cake that was eaten earlier during her friend’s birthday celebration. I opened her and then we chatted and bantered a bit and then she offered me a piece of the cake. Hence, the cake close. The cake was damn good too. I’m sure way more enjoyable than she would ever be considering her 4.5 status. But a real nice girl nonetheless.

Approach: Restaurant Hostess

Location

Local Chain Restaurant in Manhattan

Description

Hostess was trying to fix the positioning of the carpeting on the landing of an escalator on the 2nd floor.

Rating

7.0 – Very Attractive

Opener

Something along the lines of “You worked really hard at that, have you gotten it just right?”

Transition Question

She reopened me with comment

Kino

None

Close

None

Details

I was in a restaurant ready to leave, but I was waiting on Munchkin Brain who was in the bathroom. I was standing with Munchkin Brain’s father by the escalator on the second floor and noticed the HB 7 Hostess was trying to fix the positioning of the carpet/large mat and I opened her. We flirted a little bit and then I turned my attention away from her and towards Munchkin Brian’s father. We started talking about how the waiters were carrying a lot of food with using only one hand way above their heads and wondering if there have been any accidents and HB 7 Hostess overheard my conversation and reopened me and we talked some more, flirted some more and then she needed to seat a group and seconds later Munchkin Brain came out of the restroom.

Video of the Week: Direct Game Breakdown by AFC Adam

Video of the Week (as this post is titled) will feature a PUA related video each Wednesday that I feel is of sufficient quality to warrant sharing. Between all the newsletters, podcasts, and videos that are released for free every day by the community, it is hard to actually get through the worthless and find the gems. Some material is good, most isn't. By doing a Video of the Week post it allows me to put some of the higher quality material in one place for my convenience and those of my readers. Enjoy :-)

Adam Lyons (AFC Adam) is considered by many to be one of the top PUAs not only in London, but also the world. In this video AFC Adam shows a video pickup of a girl using a direct approach and then breaks down what he did step by step.

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Social Circle Game: Saturday’s Party Was A Blast

I threw my first party at my apartment on Saturday night. It was a tremendous success. A total of nine people came (6 guys, 3 girls). Everything went according to plan. The party began at 7pm. Basically everyone was there by 7:30 and we ordered Pizza around 8. I had party mix out and one of the girls brought chips, home made dip, two boxes of donuts, and cookies. I was well stocked up on liquor, coronas, and mikes hard lemonade. I charged each person five dollars to help with the costs and told them to bring their own beer. The Beer Pong Tournament began around eight and everyone had a blast. We had ordered the Ultimate Fighting Championship fight on PPV and that began at 10 and at that time we all had enough to drink and just enjoyed the fights. The evening ended around 1am. Overall it was a tremendous success.

For next month I have sent out invites to a Wings Night and I’m going to do another UFC event also a few days later. I do not think my apartment can hold more than 15 people, so I have to be smart about who I invite and what kind of parties I’m holding. I do want to eventually get the events at least 50/50 in terms of the gender ratio, if not slightly more girls than guys, but that will depend on the events themselves. Obviously a UFC event is not going to draw as many girls as a BBQ (which I will do over the summer). I’m also thinking about organizing a game of Dodge Ball :-)

Social Circle Game: Added Cast of Characters - A Social Update

In this update I am going to introduce a few new characters. I have been interacting with new females almost on a daily basis and am working towards expanding my social circle. One thing I normally like to do with females in my life is make them options that I can cash in on later. That means that I build the attraction, rapport and kino to the point where the next step is a hook-up but I keep it at that level for whatever reason (generally because they go to school or work with me and I don't want to deal with fallout).

Sex Muffin

This is a girl that I'm close friends with at school. There is lots of sexual teasing, we have excellent rapport and kino. I discussed her in the past on this blog, but I don't believe I've given her a nickname. By the way, that is her actual nickname...that is what I call her. We hang out a lot in school and we've hung out outside of school on several occasions with another girl who we spend a lot of time with as a group but this summer I'm going to change gears and go for one on one get togethers and possibly, depending if I feel comfortable with it, escalate from there.

Fake Tattoo Girl

This is a new girl I met a couple of days ago. She is pretty cute, and she is graduating this semester, so she is fair game. I call her fake tattoo girl because she was wearing one last night. I told her I thought it was a cool tattoo and she told me it was fake so I began teasing her about it. I felt there was chemistry there, we'll see.

Two Conversations Girl

This is a girl I've been attracted to for awhile, but every time I hang out with her I feel like we are having two different conversations, even when we are technically having the same one. I really don't think she listens to what another person is saying but is too focused on what she is saying. I have no idea what I want to do with this girl. When I don't hang out with her one on one, my interest level raises, but then when I hang out with her she shoots it to shit with the whole two conversation thing.

Smoochy

This is a girl that I flirt with constantly, there is very good rapport and strong kino both ways. We call each other Smoochy and I think she is a blast. We role play and all kinds of stuff, but the sad part is, she has oral herpes. So, I won't touch that. I am like super scared of getting an STD from a girl. My friend has hooked up with her and told me that everything is fine if she doesn't have an out break, but I don't know, to me, it just has No Go written all over it.

Korean Cutie

There is a Korean girl who I flirt with all the time. I know she is totally into me, but she is really good friends with several of my other friends and I am very hesitant to hang out alone with her because I don't want issues to arise with those other friends. I may hang out with her in the summer when if something does go wrong, I'm not seeing those other friends almost every day.

Conclusion

So those are just some of the girls I've been interacting with. Many of them I will be inviting to my social gatherings as time goes on as well, so that should be interesting. I will be using those nicknames to refer to them in the future, especially expect reports if things escalate. I'm out.

Approach: Rocker Mixed 3 Set + A Dead Tied Up Squirrel

Location

LIRR Train Platform

Description

Mixed 3 Set (2 Girls, 1 Guy) walking in my direction after leaving a LIRR Train

Rating

5.5 - Average
6.0 - Attractive

Opener

“Hey guys, do you think that is real?”

Transition Question

None

Kino

None

Close

None

Details

I was showing Munchkin Brain a dead squirrel that someone had tied up to the bottom of a railing on a LIRR Platform. As I was doing so I noticed a group of Rockers (a Mixed 3 Set) approaching so I opened them with “Hey guys, do you think that is real?” One of the girls was actually cute, even though I'm generally not into the Rocker look. The guy in the group got really interested and ended up taking a picture of it. A few comments went back and forth about the dead squirrel, but I was with Munchkin Brain and didn’t really have any desire for the interaction to go anywhere so I took Munchkin Brain and ejected.

Video: Dr. Phil Episode Featuring the Mystery Method and Ross Jeffries



Pulse pointed out that I failed to cite back to the original source of the video. His website and the source of the video is http://www.blacklabelseduction.com/. I would like to thank him for providing the community with this wonderful video.

Seminar: Glenn on Opening & Transitioning

I attended a seminar on Opening & Transitioning hosted by Eric Disco of Approach Anxiety and Glenn from Brad P’s company on Thursday, April 10. I never heard of Glenn before, but I was very familiar with Eric’s website. I thought the seminar was excellent and while almost none of the material was new to me it was definitely a very nice refresher and I did learn a couple of things that I did not know before. Both Glenn and Eric were very personable and very willing to give their time. After the seminar concluded they both stayed for a very long time fielding questions. Neither of them really pitched purchasing products from either of them and that made me respect them both even more.

To learn more about Eric Disco, you can visit his website at: http://www.approachanxiety.com/

To learn more about Glenn, you can visit Brad P’s website at:
http://www.bradppresents.com/

Approach: Yogurt Splenda Girl

Location

LIRR Train to Long Island

Description

Girl sitting in a 3 seat eating yogurt.

Rating

6.0 – Attractive

Opener

“Excuse me, Are you eating yogurt?”

Transition Question

None

Kino

None

Close

None

Details

I sat in a 2 seat on the LIRR, parrellel to HB 6 in the window seat of a 3 seat. I noticed that she was eating what looked like yogurt and she started pouring packets of Splenda into the yogurt. I had never seen anyone do that before and I actually thought it a bit bizarre, but also interesting. I thought about it for a moment and then reaching over with my arm and tapped her seat with my hand and said, “Excuse me, are you eating yogurt?” She said she was and I asked if she had just poured Splenda into it and she again said yes and I told her I had never seen anyone do that before, and inquired if it was something she does regularly. She told me it was and then proceeded to attempt to explain to me that she only buys non processed sugar free yogurt and as a result it has no flavor and she adds the Splenda to basically make it eat edible.

She seemed very nervous and shy and she began to tell me she tries to eat healthy and began qualifying herself to me by trying to tell me she really is normal. At this point I needed to make a decision, did I want to pursue this or swap seats to her 3 seat and advance the interaction.

I chose not to. She was really nervous, it was hard to hear her, and there was something about her that turned me off to her…perhaps just a combination of things.

Approach: Cheerleader 2 Set

Location

An Studio in NYC

Description

Shy Guy and I on an elevator with 2 Set

Ratings

7.0 – Very Attractive
6.0 – Attractive

Opener

“Were you guys auditioning for something or taking a class?”

Transition Question

“You look exhausted”

Kino

None

Close

None

Details

Shy Guy and I just got done with a seminar and went to wait for an elevator. While waiting a 2 Set came to wait for the elevator also. Shy Guy asked me how can we open them. We got in the elevator and the 2 Set were talking about auditions and I opened them with “Were you guys auditioning for something.” HB 7 said no it was a rehearsal and I asked what kind and it was for cheerleading for a sports team. I made notice that it was pretty late for an audition and HB 7 agreed and I looked at HB 6 and said that she looked exhausted. The elevator got to the first floor and at that point I needed to decide what I wanted to do. I believe I could have continued the interaction very easily, but Shy Guy is very new to all of this. He had just recently read the game and I had just begun the Venusian Arts Handbook. Also, the seminar we went to was the first community seminar he has been to. I just didn’t think he was ready for it so I wished them a good night and we went our separate ways.

Review of the Dr. Phil Show featuring the Mystery Method & Ross Jeffries

First off, I want to say I was very impressed with Dr. Phil. I thought he would be completely against the concept of the seduction community and the existence of pickup schools teaching men techniques on how to be successful with women. That was absolutely not the case. He actually took a sympathetic position towards the trouble men have meeting women.

The format of the show ran as follows:

1)Video of a Mystery Method Bootcamp along with hidden camera footage of students sarging.

2)Savoy and the Don Interview

3)Interview with girls from the hidden camera footage

4)Ross Jeffries

5)Separate Segment that really was unrelated to the seduction community

The first guests on the show were Savoy and the Don who pitched the Mystery Method in a very positive light, however I do feel that they were not honest in their depiction of their teachings. Dr. Phil asked them if they teach what an F-Close is and they feigned ignorance and then denied teaching such things which is utter nonsense.

After the segment with Savoy and the Don, they had girls from the bar share their opinion of what the Mystery Method was doing and it was generally favorable.

Then it was Ross Jeffries turn. –Cue the Music—

……………dun.dun.dun…………

This is where things got a little crazy.

Ross Jeffries claimed he had a bone to pick with the teachings of the Mystery Method, arguing that what they do is dishonest and that they use horrible tactics such as negging and push-pull techniques. Basically he was arguing that he didn’t believe that a man should have to reward or punish a woman based upon her responses to him.

Savoy and the Don did respond effectively to those arguments, but the damage was done. When Dr. Phil asked the girls what they thought of this, they started saying they were creeped out, while before their opinion was that there was no reason men should be criticized for learning this stuff.

At one point Dr. Phil said he really wasn’t so interested in Ross Jeffries criticisms of the Mystery Method and wanted to know more about what he teaches and Dr. Phil really picked apart the language used in Ross Jeffries marketing material that pitches to potential customers that they could sleep with any woman they want.

I really do believe the community was being portrayed in an unbelievably excellent light until Ross Jeffries decided to come out of the shadows. I never had anything against Ross until watching this show. I think he came off as very immature, as though he had a grudge against the Mystery Method and the community would have been better served if he just stayed at home.

Instead of Ross Jeffries being positive and portraying his teachings in a positive light, he decided to criticize the teachings of the rest of the community and the whole thing deteriorated because of it.

Media Coverage of PUAs: Ross Jeffries & Savoy on Dr. Phil

An episode of the Dr. Phil Show featuring Ross Jeffries and Savoy from The Mystery Method (Now Love Systems) is airing this Friday, April 11th. Here is a description of the show taken from the Dr. Phil website:

Women beware: Men are on the prowl! Some guys win your heart and dupe you for
thousands of dollars, while other men learn the slick techniques of pick-up
artists so they can get you in the sack! Go inside a classroom where single men
are being taught The Mystery Method -- a step-by-step technique on how to meet,
attract and date beautiful women. The founders say their method teaches guys to
be more confident. When the students hit the bars, will The Mystery Method help
them land a lady? What do the women think of their techniques? Then, meet Ross
Jeffries, the self-proclaimed "Father of Seduction." He says he’s taught
thousands of men to seduce women through language. Now he fears that he’s
created monsters, because many of his followers are seducing woman through
deception, and he says that’s exactly what The Mystery Method is all about. A
heated debate ensues between Ross and the creators of The Mystery Method, Nick
and Scott. Is Ross’ technique actually as benign as he claims? And, Victoria
says she fell in love for the first time with a guy whom who she thought was the
perfect man, until he she says he ended up scamming her out of $100,000. Did
Victoria miss the warning signs? How can she pick up the pieces of her broken
heart and move on? If you’re a lady looking for love but don't want to find
heartache, you won’t want to miss this show!


I will post a review following the airing.

Social Circle Game: Planning Events & Gatherings

Part of social development is becoming the leader of your social groups. I feel that I have been so-so in this department. Several months ago I organized a 10 cent Wings Night and we all had a blast and I've been asked by those there when we were going to do it again. That was the first and last real social gathering I organized. I never did another simply because I was being lazy. A couple of months ago I hosted an Ultimate Fighting Championship night and had a couple of friends come over, which was also pretty fun. I then decided I had a pretty nice apartment and I knew quite a bit of people, it is time to get things moving. For April I am hosting an Ultimate Fighting Championship Party (so far I have 7 people definetly coming, including myself there are 6 guys and 2 girls, and a possible third girl might be attending) and I have just invited 12 people for a Wings Night at the end of May. From this moment forth I plan on having at least one if not two events per month.

Dating Update: Hiccups

Okay, so Hiccups is done. Very weird behavior. I left the voice mail a little after 7pm. I was on AIM around 7:40 and noticed her signed on, but even though I added her I never messaged her since I just didn't feel there was ever a need to, but I noticed her away messaged said something along the lines of CREEPED OUT, LOCKED IN MY APARTMENT ALL ALONE. Or something like that. I thought it was a bit odd. Anyway, I went on Facebook around 11pm and noticed that I'm no longer a facebook friend of hers. I thought that it was odd, so I did a search for her name, nothing came up and then I realized...she must have blocked my account. Now, I find all this completely bizzare since I have never done anything that should come off the least bit "creepy." I am fairly confident that no one but one person I know personally knows of this blog, so I'm pretty sure she did not run across it. So I'm left wondering what the hell was that all about, seriously. I wish there was like a debrief session with women after the fact, because I do not give a crap if attraction died out at some point, but I do care if there was something I actually did to creep a girl out, unless of course the whole creeped out away message was completely unrelated to her removing me from facebook simply because she was no longer interested, but still, just very bizzare. Anyone with a different perspective perhaps?

Dating Update: Hiccups & College Intern

I decided to send text messages to both girls on Sunday. The only one that replied was Hiccups. It went back and forth a few times and then I went dead air. I called her this evening (a little bit after 7pm) and left a message. That is all she wrote. I dunno, I’ve more or less written both girls off, simply because I just stopped feeling them. I need to start approaching more, I kind have been in a bit of a lull, I don’t know why. I just haven’t been focused I guess. I do think that these two girls are salvageable, but it is one of those whatever situations. Everything is still going good with Munchkin, I’m hosting a party with her at my place in a couple of weeks, about 7-10 people are coming. I’ll talk about me and hosting parties and gatherings more in a future post.