PUA Movie: Let the Game Begin (Description & Trailer)

Let the Game Begin is a new movie based on the pick up community staring Thomas Ian Nicholas, Adam Rodriguez, Lisa Ray, Michael Madsen, Stephen Baldwin, Jesse Jane, Natasha Henstridge, Lochlyn Munro, Ken Davitian, James Avery, Diora Baird, and Caroline NĂ©ron. It is scheduled to be released in 2009. The movie uses terms from the community, such as AFC and even the opinion opener: who lies more?. According to Thundercat, he took a Mystery Method workshop with the producer of the movie back in 2003. You can even see the pickup artist Zan in the trailor playing himself.


Seminar: Art Malov on Day Game (Review & Notes Included)

Overview

On Sunday, August 24, 2008, Art Malov, a NYC Dating Coach, spoke at the NYC Inside Out Social Dynamics Mastermind Group’s monthly Meetup. The seminar’s topic was Day Game and Inner Game. While Art’s teachings diverge in some areas from my own, I did find the seminar very interesting. Below are the notes I took from the seminar. These notes reflect my interpretation of what Art Malov said and is not a reflection of my own personal views on Day Game and Inner Game.


The Approach

Most men care too much about what the girl thinks or is concerned with what her response will be. You need to not care what the girl thinks or what her response will be; anytime you come up with reasons why you cannot approach a girl it is merely an excuse and you need to be conscious of it and overcome it.

When you approach women, 50% of those women will be available, the other 50% will be unavailable. Unavailable can mean the girl has a boyfriend, she is in some form of relationship, a family member is ill, her dog just died, she is late paying the rent—basically any situation that puts her in a state that would make her unavailable for a new man to enter into her life. When a woman is unavailable she will either not be responsive or respond in short answers. If you realize the woman is unavailable or the interaction is not fun to you, eject immediately. The goal is for you to have fun, you are the prize. The other 50% of women will be available and will most likely engage you; it may not even make sense why.

Do not follow or chase after girls. This gives a chasing mentality. There are plenty of girls and no need to chase any down. Girls walking directly towards you are the hardest type of approaches.

The Opener and Interaction

A day game interaction should last between 5 – 10 minutes. A number close can be accomplished in under a minute simply by creating an emotional connection with the girl alone. It is not logical, but it works.

Do not use direct compliment openers. Girls get complimented all the time, especially if they are very attractive and direct compliments reveal to the girl that you are interested which releases tension and gives the girl power over you. The girl should not be aware you will number close until you do so. It is best to use situational openers. Always have a “backup opener.” A backup opener is an opener you use if nothing comes to mind for you to say when you approach a girl.
When you open, do not face her too early. You should kino the girl, but do not do it too much. In day game the conversation should be 50/50, not 90/10 like in night game. If the girl is not responding, she is not interested, eject. There is no need to continue to plow. In day game, if a girl tells you she has a boyfriend she is most likely telling you that she is not interested. You need to generally enter into rapport sometime in the interaction, but not right in the beginning. Avoid asking her too many questions, sometimes 2-3 are already too many.

The goal should be for a number close, not to go on instant-dates. Just tell her the two of you should hang out sometime and hand her your phone. If you do not remember her name, ask her to spell it.

If the girl is wearing head phones, do not signal for her to remove the head phones, instead speak to her. If she does not hear you, project louder. If you have to, you can tap her on the shoulder. Avoid signaling her to take off her headphones because it will be telling her to do something and if she does do it, it won’t be of her own accord.

Phone Game and Day 2s

Call a day or two after you number close. Do not go for an e-mail close. Don’t text-message the girl initially. When you call, if the girl does not pick up and you get the voice mail box, hang up and immediately call back again. If the girl does not pick up on the second call, leave a short message.

Keep the first date short and can occur on the weekend or during the week.

Further Resources on Art Malov

Art Malov's Dating Coach Company
Art Malov's Blog
Art Malov's Wingman Group
Art Malov's Book, Park Bench Dating
YouTube Videos Featuring Art Malov
PUA Ratings Audio Interview with Art Malov
New York Times Article, Wingmen in the Wings

Product Review: I Hope THey Serve Beer in Hell by Tucker Max

I have just finished reading I Hope They Serve Beer in Hell, by Tucker Max. From a community perspective, Tucker Max has generally been looked at as a successful natural. In the outside world, many people do not look at Tucker Max in a favorable light. His book is a collection of stories that chronicle Tucker’s different outrageous experiences with both alcohol and women. The book was very enjoyable and I found myself laughing over and over again. If you visit his website, tuckermax.com you can find many of these stories. Other than the humor factor, the stories do demonstrate that exhibiting alpha characteristics and confidence can take you along way with women. His give-no-shit approach to consequences is very interesting and in the end, whether the stories are 100% true or a bit embellished, they are still enjoyable to read.

A Journey to Social Mastery Featured on Pick Up Artist Mindset's Top 8 Pick Up Artist Sites

Roosh, on his website, Pick Up Artist Mindset, made a post listing what he feels are the Top 8 Pick Up Artist Sites, listing A Journey to Social Mastery (this blog), as number 6. I suppose this blog has come a long way from when I started it and I was my only reader. I'm happy to see other people are enjoying reading about my experiences in pick up and my other community related posts. Hopefully this site, its quality, and its readership continue to grow in 2009 and beyond :-)

Events: New York City PUA Events for August 2008

In an effort to keep my readers and myself better informed on the different community events occuring in New York City each month I've decided to post a calender at the beginning of each month listing all upcoming events I am aware of. New York City is a place that has several different community groups and there is no reason to learn pick up on your own if you do not want to. If I have a missed an event that you feel should be listed please do not hesitate to e-mail me.



Sunday, August 17th
Title: August ’08 VibeFest
Location: Chinatown Brasserie
Time: 7:30 p.m.
Description: This is an event hosted by the Vybe List (formerly called the NYC Lair). The description reads in part, “This is a great opportunity for new members (and current veterans) to meet each other and gain some insight on approaching and interacting with women. Once we meet up, we'll head out to different venues and have a lot of fun engaging beautiful females.”

Thursday, August 21
Title: NYC Sarge Meetup
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001 Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9:00 p.m.

Sunday, August 24th
Title: NYC Social Dynamics Masterminds Day Game Seminar with Art Malov
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, 520 Eighth Avenue, Btw. 36th and 37th Street, 16th Floor, New York, NY 10001
Room: 16K
Time: 5:00 p.m.
Price: $12
Description: The description reads in part, "This month we will be focusing on day game and related inner game aspects. . . . At this presentation – you will be taught just what it takes to bring your best to day game and about the critical inner game elements that you have to master in order to move your day game forward. We are fortunate to have Art - one of New York’s finest day time dating coaches – be our guest speaker. Art will be making a special 1 hour presentation to our group and will also set aside some time to answer your day game questions. . . . Art, who is part of www.newyorkdatingcoach.com– has been a full time day time coach for several years – bringing his unique day game and inner game advice and insight to New York’s bachelor community. Featured in Sirius radio, The New York Times, Time Out NY, MacLean’s – Art is the real deal.”

Thursday, August 28
Title: NYC Sarge Meetup
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001
Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9:00 p.m.

Video: Julian Foxx Calls Out Style and Mystery

A PUA that goes by the name Julian Foxx made a video challeging Neil Strauss (Style) to a pick up match. Style declines and recommends Foxx challenge Mystery since that is more up Mystery's alley. Immediately after we are then shown infield footage of Julian Foxx and Mystery at a venue. I personally am very skeptical of the legitimacy of this footage. Julian purposely went to the venue to film Mystery and just so happens leaves with a girl Mystery interacted with. It seems too perfect. I suspect that Julian knew the girl before hand and set it up to make it look as though he picked up a girl Mystery couldn't. Below is the video.

Video: Day Game Approaches by Alex from Succeed At Dating

Here is an interesting video released by Alex from Succeed At Dating. It shows three Day Game approaches.

The first approach Alex opens direct with:

"I just saw you from over there and I had to come over and say hi . . . My name is Alex . . . It is against the law for me not to come by and tell you that you are the prettiest girl I've seen today." At some point in the interaction he asks her if she is single and then number closes her.

The second approach is an opinion opener that is not disclosed and the type of opener for the third is not shared with the viewer.


Social Circle Game: Results of Third Apartment Party

Overall, the party was fantastic. There were fourteen of us. I got the whole male/female ratio thing worked out with 7 girls and 7 guys. Everyone brought beer this time and everyone paid, which covered more than half the costs of the party. Almost everyone seemed to have a great time and pretty much everyone was pretty trashed. There were a few games of beer pong and a couple of rounds of shots throughout the night.

In the way of planning, there were only two issues. First, I need to go purchase a couple of more chairs. There were enough of chairs, but if just one more person came, someone would have been sitting Indian style. Second, and this was a biggy, the junk food went stale. It went stale after about an hour. I think it was because of the amount of people in the apartment, the temperature and humidity of the room went up. However, there was plenty of pizza, the dip that one of the couples brought was very popular, and so were the brownies that one of the girls brought. I suppose the solution will be to keep a few windows open next time.

I have scheduled the next party for September 6th and will try to make them a regular monthly event.

Social Circle Game: My Third Apartment Party

Tonight I’m hosting a party at my apartment. It is the third such party I have done this year. I feel that every time I do it I get better at it. This is part of my overall strategy to become the hub of my social network.

The party begins at 7 p.m. I charge $5 admission per person and require everyone to bring their own beer. This was the requirement last time, however not everyone paid and hardly anyone brought their own beer. This time I made it explicitly clear. I informed everyone there will be a container on the first end table in the living room that I expect everyone to place their $5 in and that there is a 7/11 across the street and to pick up their favorite 6 pack before they come.

I have a professional beer pong table set up, games will begin promptly at 7:30, along with scheduled shots being done at 7:45, 8:30, and 9:15.

I order pizza at 8 p.m. By that time most people that are coming will have arrived. By 8:30 p.m. the pizza should be here.

At 10 p.m. the Ultimate Fighting Championship begins. It runs until about 1 a.m. Most people will watch, some won’t and will either socialize or play drinking games.

The first party had 10 people. The second party had only 5, though 13 had told me they were coming. As a result, I realized that to combat any issue of flaking I increased the amount of people I have invited to approximately 30 people. I estimate my apartment can comfortably handle about 15 people and that is just about how many people said they would come. I have already had a few people flake, but I hope to arrive at about 10 people for the evening. I have also increased the number of females I am inviting in attempt to even out the male/female ratio.

I will give an update tomorrow afternoon on the results of the party.