Social Circle Game: Second Party of October

On Saturday I threw my second party of the month. Earlier this month I had my 26th Birthday Party celebration and this past Saturday I threw another UFC party. I basically have a UFC party every month, and the plan is to throw myself a birthday party every year and three “regular” house parties throughout the year and possibly other special events parties for holidays, etc. I also have a wide range of other events that I plan on throwing throughout the year. The next one up is a wings night taking place early in November followed by another UFC party mid-November.

What I Did New This Time

  • Shot Glass Checkers: I purchased plastic cheap plastic shot glasses (about 200) from a party store. Each side’s shot glasses were filled with a different flavor malt beverage (e.g., Mike’s Hard Lemonade). When you jump the other player’s piece, they need to drink that shot. If you queen (or is it king?) you then place one of the previously used shot glasses under the one that became a queen to distinguish that piece from the others. The loser has to drink all the remaining shots on the board.

  • Apples to Apples: This is a board game that one of the guests brought that I turned into a drinking game and have since purchased my own copy of the game to have at future parties. Each player is dealt seven "red apple" cards; on each is printed a noun or noun phrase (such as "Madonna", "Canada", "The Spanish Inquisition", etc.). The judge (a chosen player) draws a "green apple" card on which is printed an adjective ("scary", "frightening", "patriotic", etc.), and places it face-up on the table. From amongst their red-apple cards, each player (except the judge) chooses a card that they think is the best match for the green apple card, and places it face-down. The judge shuffles the red apple cards, reads them (often aloud), and decides which noun is the best match for the adjective. The player who submitted that red apple card wins the round, and takes the green apple card to signify the win. All players then draw red cards until they have seven again, and the role of "judge" may pass to another person (generally going to the next player in line, though some rules have the round's winner becoming "judge"). Basically what I did was to have whoever won the round take a shot. It became very fun very quickly.

  • Poker: At the suggestion of one the frequent guests to my parties, I purchased a poker set so guests can play poker w/ casino like chips if they like.

  • Signs: I placed signs around the apartment to make life slightly easier for the guests, displaying where the recycling garbage should go (cans and bottles) and where the regular garbage was.

  • Clean Up: I always clean the entire apartment before each party and immediately following each party. I now have an iRobot Roomba which is an automated vacuum that will clean the apartment for me. I have it automatically clean the apartment (floors and carpeting) Monday – Thursday and now I set it to clean immediately after the party while I work on putting away other things, etc.

Things I realized & Future Ideas

  • Bar Stools: I realized that while I can fit between 20-25 people in my apartment for a regular party, I am much more limited for the UFC parties because people would like to watch the fights on the TV and there isn’t enough room w/ all the chairs out. If I use Foldable Bar Stools, guests who sit on those stools will then be sitting higher than those in the regular fold out chairs and will be able to still see the screen, thus accommodating up to 15 guests who can all watch the fights.

  • Shot Raffle: I have decided to try a shot raffle during the next party. That means that I will have some kind of bowl, glass, bin, jar, etc. where everyone can place a paper with their name on it and every thirty minutes I will pull out a name and they have to do a shot. It seems like an easy way to keep the alcohol flowing freely.

  • Door Sign: I am still having issues with people paying the $5 admission. Everyone but two paid this last time. The parties are expensive to host and I really would like to have everyone pay without bringing it up to them, it just makes it awkward when I have to do that. I am planning on putting a sign on the door right below the door bell explaining that admission is 5 and a six pack of beer per person and that the fee jar is on the first end table in the living room.

  • An Efficient Guest List System: I have been organizing spread sheets for each type of event and keep track of who comes, who misbehaves when they do come, who says they are coming and then flakes, and who just does not respond to invites or expresses no interest in attending. This will allow me to better focus my invites on people I know are really interested in attending and will actually attend.


It is very interesting that with every party and event I host I learn new things from and come up with ideas to improve the experience for both the guests and myself as host.

Video: The Pickup Artist S02E01

Below is the first episode of The Pickup Artist Season 2, courtesy of The Seduction Chronicles.

Video: The Men's Room Interview with Cajun

A new blog, The Men's Room, has some interesting video interviews with a couple of well known figures in the community. The below interview is of Cajun, an instructor from Love Systems that appeared not too long ago on an episode of Keys to the VIP. I found the interview pretty interesting and informative. Enjoy.

Part 1 of 3

Part 2 of 3

Part 3 of 3

The Pickup Artist 2 Premiers on Sunday

The Pickup Artist 2 premiers this Sunday, October 12th, at 10 p.m. Eastern on VH1.

The premier episode description reads, "Nine loveable losers arrive at a mansion in the Arizona desert to meet the one man who can teach them the skills to improve their game with women. After hitting the clubs to demonstrate their lack of game for their mentor, Mystery, the students are treated to makeovers. But the nine newbies are stunned when one of their team is sent home before he even begins his transformation."

Social Circle Game: Yummy's Birthday Party

I threw myself a birthday party this past Saturday. It was the first non-UFC party I hosted. The last UFC party went very well (I neglected to post an after-party report). The birthday party also went extremely well. I had about fifteen people over and there was plenty of room to accommodate them all, however I am very skeptical that I can fit many more than that.

What I Did New This Time

I placed in the bathroom a wine glass with peppermint candies (a la Johnny Wolf). This worked really well. I noticed that many people took the candies and it gave them a private location to do so without others realizing they wanted to freshen up their breath.

I had a digital camera and a digital video camera that I passed around. The result is that I have approximately 150 photos and three hours of video that I can post online and which I have posted online. This will help promote future parties, since people will see how the prior parties went and what it is like to attend and it also adds social proof.

I added weather stripping to my apartment door to help reduce noise going into the hallway and thus potentially disturbing my neighbors who have yet to complain about any of my parties.

Things I realized

A party consisting of fifteen people requires three pizza pies to be ordered, never four. I have been having trouble ordering the right amount of pies and I keep overestimating. The final conclusion I have come to is that three pies is the right amount for 15 people. One plain and two pepperoni. If there are ten people, then two pies, one plain and one pepperoni .

Unlike a UFC Party that requires only three hours of entertainment before the MMA fights start, a regular party that will last approximately seven hours requires a bit more planning for entertainment. I plan on have several decks of cards available for different card games and proving shot glass checkers for entertainment. I may purchase other “party” type games.
People Need Chairs. I now have a total of twelve fold out chairs to support the amount of people that attend the parties.


I will have three regular parties year and one birthday party. Basically a party for each season. I have setup a calendar that I plan to adhere to listing all the types of social events I plan to host and when in the year I want to host them and have committed to sticking to that calendar. I am becoming the center/leader of my social circle which was the ultimate goal.

Events: New York City PUA Events for October 2008

In an effort to keep my readers and myself better informed on the different community events occurring in New York City each month I post a calendar at the beginning of each month listing all upcoming events I am aware of. New York City is a place that has several different community groups and there is no reason to learn pick up on your own if you do not want to. If I have a missed an event that you feel should be listed please do not hesitate to e-mail me.

Thursday, October 9, 2008
Host: Sarge NYC Meetup Group
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001
Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9 p.m.

Thursday, October 16, 2008
Host: Sarge NYC Meetup Group
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001
Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9 p.m.

Thursday, October 23, 2008
Host: Sarge NYC Meetup Group
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001
Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9 p.m.

Saturday, October 25, 2008
Host: NYC Inside Out Social Dynamics Mastermind Group
Title: Macro View – 37 Things I Learned About Dating Women
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, 520 8th Avenue, 36th/37th St., Rm. 16U, 16th Floor, New York, NY 10001
Phone: (212) 643-9985
Time: 5:30 p.m.
Price: $12
Description: “This month's meeting we are going to take on a macro view of the dating game. Details to be posted soon. See you all there, Philip. Post meeting we will be going out. so bring your best game and get ready to put into action what you learn.“

Sunday, October 26, 2008
Host: Vibelist/NYC Lair Meeting
Title: TBA
Location: Ripley Grier Studios, 520 8th Ave (36/37 St), 16th Floor
Time: 4:30 – 8:00 p.m.
Price: $20 Non-members, $10 members
Description: Not Yet Available

Thursday, October 30, 2008
Host: Sarge NYC Meetup Group
Location: West Village, W. 4th St. and 6th Ave, New York, NY 10001
Phone: 201-424-2876
Time: 9 p.m.