Swinging: First Flakes & Future Dates

So we had two flakes this past weekend with single guys.
Some of you may be confused, as in, “Why are you meeting single guys?” confused, so let me explain.

This was basically my idea. With becoming involved with swinging I’m basically overcoming many hang-ups I have, and probably most guys have, when it comes to sex and people they are involved with. My Primary LTR will be sleeping with other guys when we swap with couples, so why not expand our sexual horizons further and try a MFM Threesome while we are at it. The whole way I look at all of this is that we only live life once, and I plan on milking life for everything it has. My Primary LTR is up for this, the next girl may not, that is if there is a next girl, you never know, but why not give it all a whirl with someone willing. There is a good chance all this can be very liberating and empowering.

Moving on to these two flakes. Apparently in the swinging world, a single guy will cancel for a variety of reasons. Some of those being: they are married even though they claimed to be singe and could not get away for the evening, got ‘cold feet’, are not who they said they were in the ad and are afraid that they would get found out, or ‘an unplanned event’ happened. The first guy for Friday claimed that our e-mail ended up in his spam folder somehow. The second guy did not respond to us at all until we texted him the day of asking if we were still on and several hours later (after we already made new plans with other people) he sent a response saying something work related came up. We have since moved on from these two.

Our first meetings are always Meet and Greets with no expectations. Meaning we just want to meet the couple or single person (m or f) and see if we have chemistry. It is like a date. If we like them, then the second interaction is when we plan on moving things forward. Perhaps the two nitwits above just wanted easy sex and moved on, but as a friend of ours who is a single guy swinger said, what single guy would pass up the opportunity to meet with a couple?

Anyway, moving on to our two future dates. We should be going out with two different couples this coming weekend. One is in their twenties, the other in their early thirties. Both are attractive and have been certified by other couples as being real :-) We’ll see how it goes.